Regardless of Cibrian being married to Actual Housewives of Beverly Hills star Brandi Glanville on the time, Shay stated she actually had no thought. Because the Vanderpump Guidelines alum reminds her readers in an unique clip shared with Leisure Weekly, this was earlier than the period of omnipresent social media, so secrets and techniques had been rather a lot simpler to carry.

Shay writes that she was simply 21 years outdated when she first met Cibrian whereas she was working at a personal members-only membership the place “each A-list movie star, director, author, and actor frolicked.” Her roommate, who additionally labored there, had helped her land the gig at “the most popular place to work in Beverly Hills.” Shay hoped, like many who go to LA, to get found and figured this was an excellent place for it.

In response to Shay, Cibrian walked in and she or he was completed in instantly. “Should you had been to ask me once I was rising up what my precise sort was, to a tee it was Eddie–tall, darkish, and good-looking, with dimples,” she explains within the e-book. “The second we made eye contact, he smiled at me with these dimples, and I melted.”

Shay writes that she was smitten immediately with Cibrian’s allure, and the way “he all the time made me really feel like I used to be the one woman within the room once I was working.”

As for Glanville, Shay writes that Cibrian being married by no means even crossed her thoughts — and it definitely by no means crossed his lips. “This was pre–social media, so it wasn’t like he was posting pics of his household in matching pajamas in entrance of a Christmas tree,” she notes. He additionally by no means wore a marriage ring, per the e-book, so she merely “assumed he was single.”

On high of that, she did not have a smartphone and needed to go to an web cafe to even get on-line, so wanting up this man on Google by no means actually crossed her thoughts. It was a less complicated time when it got here to issues like that, for higher or worse.

Shay defined that she and Cibrian had been by no means even in what would possibly think about an unique boyfriend-girlfriend factor, however by 2006, issues had began to get bodily between them, with Shay describing it as “a weekly booty name.”

She defined that the hookups had been all the time on a Tuesday after her shift, they usually had been even out in public collectively rather a lot throughout this time with associates, cruising on his boat and “taking pictures collectively.”

“In hindsight, it was fairly brazen of him to be absolutely out in public with a bunch of single girls whereas his spouse and little one had been at house,” she writes in her e-book. And on the similar time, she was falling exhausting, including, “The horrifying factor is that I completely thought I might find yourself with Eddie.”

This was properly earlier than Shay would discover success in actuality tv with the launch of VPR in 2013, and even earlier than Glanville turned a Housewife in 2011 — which was additionally the yr after she and Cibrian’s very public divorce over his infidelity with a distinct lady.

On the similar time that issues had been feeling proper with Cibrian, Shay felt herself being younger and never fairly able to commit — plus, she and Cibrian had by no means been unique. “That was once I began seeing Jesse Metcalfe, the horny gardener from Determined Housewives,” she writes.

They started courting in 2007, however when that relationship ran its course, she and Cibrian reconnected. And regardless of by no means going to his home or actually being introduced within his world, Shay writes that she “did not see a single purple flag” with him.

“It actually felt like we had been constructing one thing. Did I feel it was bizarre that I by no means went to his home? No!” she writes. “He lived in Calabasas, supposedly. And I definitely wasn’t making the trek to Calabasas in 2007, when Ubers didn’t exist, and I had lower than $1,000 to my title.” For a younger working-class lady, she was completely joyful to hold in Beverly Hills or Hollywood and at her place.

Shay stated that somebody at her work did tip her off to the truth that Cibrian was married. “He will need to have seen that we had been getting extra severe and didn’t need me to get in too deep,” writes Shay.

She writes that she finally requested him straight-out and he denied it, replying, “No, that is insane. Why would you ask me that?”

“It was gaslighting in its most simple kind,” Shay provides. “But, I trusted him, so we continued hanging out.”

And, because it seems, Cibrian was additionally stepping out on his marriage to Glanville with another person — the girl who would (considerably controversially, a minimum of within the public eye) develop into his spouse the yr after his divorce, LeAnn Rimes.

Scheana Shay’s My Good Facet hits booksellers on July 22.