The OP (a.ok.a “authentic poster”) shared her story to Reddit’s AITA (“Am I the A–hole”) discussion board, asking the web whether or not or not she’s within the incorrect for refusing to faux being an ethnicity of which she is to not “impress” her boyfriend’s mates at an occasion.

Redditors weighed in, earlier than the girl later revealed the explanation behind her boyfriend’s weird request, and the place they stand now.

Learn on to see what went down and the way Redditors reacted.

In her authentic put up, the girl requested the query: “AITA for telling my boyfriend I would not fake to be Japanese to impress his outdated highschool mates?”

“I (23f) am a Chinese language girl dwelling in America. My boyfriend (23m) is American and white. I’m considerably conscious of a bizarre factor for Asian ladies some white American guys have,” OP wrote. “However most of my boyfriend’s exes are African-American so I believed I used to be within the clear.”

“He’ll attend a occasion that features many mates from highschool,” he added. “He advised me he desires his mates to suppose I am Japanese. He mentioned I haven’t got to outright say it, I can simply do one thing delicate to offer them that impression.”

In response to the girl, considered one of her boyfriend’s exes, who’s African-American, shall be on the occasion, however OP’s boyfriend “guarantees” that his ex being there “has nothing to do with him wanting folks to suppose I am Japanese.”

“He mentioned it is for his male mates,” OP clarified. “Although it is folks he hardly ever sees so this possibly a one time factor, I advised him I would not fake to be Japanese.”

“Until it is required, I keep away from telling folks I am Chinese language,” she defined. “I really feel folks put a lot inventory into the place individuals are born and I need folks to get to know me for me.”

Regardless of her declining her boyfriend’s request, OP mentioned her boyfriend “nonetheless desires” her to go together with him to the occasion, however famous that “he looks like he is dreading it.”

“Am I the a–hole ?” she then requested.

Redditors appeared to unanimously label the girl as NTA, a.ok.a. “not the a–hole,” and did not hesitate to rally behind OP, whereas additionally accusing her boyfriend of getting a “fetish.”

“NTA and it is actually bizarre that he desires you to lie to indicate off his ‘Japanese’ girlfriend like a trophy,” a person wrote.

One other commenter urged the boyfriend fetishizes Japanese tradition, saying he was “dreading” going to the occasion as a result of he most likely “already advised them you are Japanese.”

“NTA boyfriend and his mates have a bizarre ass fetish,” one other wrote in a well-liked remark, to which OP replied, “Possibly I am naive. I undoubtedly do not suppose I perceive how kinks and fetishes work.”

“I hoped [because] most of his exes are African-American, that might imply he does not have a bizarre obsession for Asian ladies,” she added, earlier than asking how “many” of his mates he grew up with presumably have the “identical fetish.”

“I’m not defending him, I simply do not know the way this works,” OP clarified.

After a Redditor urged that the boyfriend could “have a fetish for ‘Unique’ ladies for which any girl not white might match,” the girl mentioned that the commenter’s “concept suits essentially the most.”

“Possibly my boyfriend have an obsession for non-white ladies however desires to impress somebody who particularly like Japanese ladies,” OP mentioned.

In the meantime, one other person — who additionally mentioned OP was NTA — requested, “Why the heck are you relationship this creep nta.”

“Part of me hoped folks would say I am overreacting,” she mentioned.

One other commenter requested OP if she was “in search of a purpose to stick with that weirdo??”

“You are not the a–hole for not pretending to be one thing you are not,” the person assured. “It is good to have self respect however….your boyfriend feels like a bit of labor and he’ll do extra microagressions towards you for those who let him get away with it. PICK BETTER!”

The lady replied, “I used to be, however this can be a downside I am unable to ignore. My boyfriend has points.”

The subsequent day, the girl gave an replace in a new put up, sharing that she had a dialog together with her boyfriend, who defined the obvious purpose why he requested her to “fake to be Japanese.”

“A tiny replace because the dialog I had with my boyfriend was lower than 2 hours lengthy,” OP mentioned. “He guarantees that he does not care that I am Chinese language as an alternative of Japanese. He admitted he is bodily interested in ladies who aren’t white.”

“He guarantees that his outdated highschool mates does not have anti-Chinese language sentiments. He admitted it was a silly aggressive factor between him and his mates,” she continued. “He mentioned his mates shall be [impressed] that I am Chinese language however considered one of his different mates has a South Korean girlfriend. Of their bizarre rating, despite the fact that Chinese language is ranked excessive, South Korean is ranked larger. For them, the one factor that ranks larger than South Korean is Japanese.”

OP then dropped a bomb, telling Redditors, “I broke up with him. I advised him and his mates must have extra respect for ladies.”

Commenters praised OP for her determination.

“Good for you. That feels like an insanely silly factor for him to fret about,” a person wrote.

“The very concept that he and his mates RANK the desirability of feminine companions in accordance with their cultural / ethnic origin is deeply, deeply s–ty behaviour,” one other mentioned. “You probably did the correct factor to interrupt up with him. Completely appalling behaviour!”

“You probably did nice standing up for your self. You are not some piece of meat for a contest,” one other individual chimed in.

What do you suppose?